While I do read as little as possible before going into a movie, always be aware of what you just saw. In other words, don't blame the movie for not being what you expected it to be. Heard that a lot lately, like the trailer promised me this, the poster looked like this. It's not the movies fault, but the marketing people of the movie (another reason not to get too much information beforehand).This is a movie from Hong Kong, but is not action nor silly comedy. And even if some actors have done both, in this case they do slow paced drama. And they're doing a pretty solid job. While this is not the best drama I saw in 2014, this still is pretty good. It paints a picture (or more) of people trying to cope and understand things. To live in a weird world sort of ... And putting their thoughts and some interesting ones at that, out there ...

When I think about films from Hong Kong, usually I think of martial arts films like the old Shaw Brothers films or a Jackie Chan action picture. Now I am not saying that is all they make there, but traditionally this is the sort of film that you'd see imported here into the States. However, Ho-Cheung Pang's recent film, Aberdeen, is absolutely nothing like what I expected and it's a film that surprised me by its style.Aberdeen consists of several different stories that concern extended family members—though it takes you a while to realize that the folks you keep seeing are related. Additionally, exactly WHAT the film is about is very difficult to say—even after the movie is complete! This vagueness will no doubt bother some viewers and various interpretations of what it all means are very possible.The film concerns two sets of adult children of a grandfather. One story is about a woman who is obsessed with the notion that her mother, who has been dead for a decade, didn't really love her—though there really is no way to know for sure. In fact, she's so caught up with this that she doesn't realize that her husband is being unfaithful to her. Another story is about an aging model who wants to make it in films. However, her husband has an obsession—that their young daughter is not his. He behaves as if he loves her, but is obsessed that she is ugly, unlike him and his wife. I thought the child was adorable…but, I was not this weird man. As for the little girl, she has a bit of an obsession…about her dead lizard and its need to go to Heaven.So is all this worth seeing? Well, the acting is very nice and the direction quite good though quite slow paced. However, as for the story, it left me pretty cold. I am not sure how much meaning or significance there is to all this or if I even cared much about this. Mostly, I think, it's because I didn't care all that much about many of the characters. Had I felt a connection, surely I would have enjoyed it much more.

This film has a decided focus on women's issues including a look at sexual exploitation in the acting/modeling business, the constant pressure a woman feels to remain young-looking in order to keep their stinkin' husband from cheating, the life of self-loathing that can follow in the wake of certain mother/daughter issues, the bullying a female child is subjected to when she is not seen as being as pretty as her classmates, and the personal and professional difficulties that can come later in life for women judged less attractive. Given this focus, it is peculiar that the film appears to tell parents that they should not worry about their unattractive female children because a) the bullies are more likely to live with guilt over this, than the victims are to be damaged, and b) the girls can always choose to have plastic surgery when they're older! What I WANT to think is that there's a subtitle translation issue, and what was MEANT was that girls choosing plastic surgery should be made to feel no more stigma about doing so, than one should feel in choosing to be a "housewife" over other careers. I fear that this massaging of the message is merely wishful thinking on my part, however. Other qualms: In what world would a young attractive woman be horny for (I don't care if he's a physician of not) an old troll like Eric Tsang? Also, is it possible that a woman in HK – particularly one in the modeling/acting industry – would not have ever considered having oral sex with her husband? And even harder to believe, how is it possible that an extremely handsome and popular man would not have even ever asked his wife if she might consider oral sex? All that said, I enjoyed this film a lot, despite it's ultimate insensitivity to the very issues it observes.

Aberdeen is a movie on family, tolerance, acceptance, confidence, how to face our history and make the best out of the present.On the surface it is a story on a family – grandpa (Man Tat Ng) with two adult children, a daughter (Miriam Yeung) and a son (Louis Koo). The daughter married a doctor (Eric Tsang) who has an affair with his nurse (Jacky Choi). The son married a pretty model (Gigi Leung) whose modeling career seemed to going downhill. Their daughter (Lee man Kwai) is not as pretty as her parents and is bullied at school.But it is also a tribute to Hong Kong (HK) history and culture. To start with, the title Aberdeen expressed two aspects of history: that the west set foot in Aberdeen when they first landed in Hong Kong. Aberdeen still remains a major fisherman neighborhood with a typhoon shelter to keep fishing boats safe from storms. But the Cantonese title 香港仔 (Hong Kong sons), apart from the two explanations above, also refers to the kids who grow up in HK. For HK citizens, this movie is more like a family album filled with collective memories including the WWII bomb, cartoon-themed McDonald and the whale.Going through these memories, the characters find that they are not perfect but they can make the best out of the situation. What we should not do is impose pressure or hatred on ourselves or others which is based on misconception. In this family, everyone is valuable though each of them have their challenges: grandpa seeks atonement by being a Taoist priest and looks like a loser but he is the one who helps the lost granddaughter. Granddaughter knows she is not pretty but she does not let it bother her. She learns Kung Fu and how to change the bulb but she cares more about pleasing her father which includes eating durian (a fruit she does not like). Like many kids who is puzzled about life, she begins ponder on this question when her pet chameleon Greenie disappears. Her father, a handsome and successful teacher at a tutorial school is obsessed with image. He is bothered that his daughter is not as pretty which could cause her being bullied as he did so when he was younger. He even began to doubt this blood relation. To prepare his daughter for this cruel world, he put her to learn changing bulbs and practice Wing Chun, a kind of Kung Fu which Bruce Lee also learnt.His elder sister believes her dead mom never loves her and develops a kind of depression which begins to affect her sleep, without noticing that her husband is having an affair.At a buffet following a family grave sweeping, the son begins to show his resentment towards his father's girlfriend (Carrie Ng) who works in a night club because it will affect his image. In this seemingly functional family, we see lots of secrets within family members and there rarely is very open and honest communication. The plot progresses when a bomb explodes and the granddaughter's pet Greenie disappears, and elder sister wakes up from a nightmare, signifying some family secrets finally got exposed. Like the ignition of an old bomb, after minimal damage, the world keeps on moving. We just have to deal with it and support each other. Nothing is really that bad. We can change our perspective and life will go on. Another theme is that many pressure is self-inflicted. It is like looking through the narrow slit in the fort, there seems to be no future. But if we can step outside, we will find the big, wide world outside. It is OK if we do not have a definite destination, as long as we can breathe in, hold and breathe out.Then of course another theme is appearance and confidence: there is no need to feel insecure just because we do not look attractive. The bullied high school classmate has got over it and forgiven the classmate who bullied her. It is only the adult son who carries the guilt around and the notion that it will be a bitter life for an unattractive person. Despite everyone's worries, the director gradually leads us to realize that what we sweat are probably small stuff and there are more important things to celebrate. Greenie has come back/reincarnated as a whale (Chinese culture triumphs) and the teacher accepts plastic surgery while his wife learns new skills to please her husband. Sister resolves her conflict after being supported by her hubby and clarifying with her father. Two vivid scenes are very interesting: one is a mini North Point made from paper models which Hong Kong people use as offerings for dead relatives. Another is a similar scene where elder sister takes a paper taxi to see her mom at her childhood home. Both scenes showed the interaction of the living and the dead and is visually stunning. The film is quite mild in saying things are not as bad as they seem. As long as the family is together and we accept each other and feel secure, even eating at McDonald is better than having buffet at a five star hotel. Relationship is more valuable than material gain. In that sense, Aberdeen/family is our shelter.Being able to forgive is a virtue that helps us deal with reality with maturity. Perhaps we should start with forgiving ourselves first. Don't be too harsh on ourselves, and others for that matter. Do not take ourselves so seriously, because nobody else does.